Jan 24th, 2024 marks the one-year anniversary since officiating my brother’s funeral service. I think about him often. Todd was a fun-loving guy, and he had an incredible mechanical aptitude. In his mind, he could visualize the mechanical function of just about anything. This gift allowed him to be quite successful in his machining career. Additionally, at his best, he was a great son, brother, and dad.
This does not mean in any way that Todd was without his faults. From his teen years, he enjoyed drinking. It was fun for him. Through the years though, “fun” Todd became frustrated, emotional, and not so much fun to be around. That which he chose, had now chosen him. What he once controlled now commanded a costly influence in his life. There were many casualties in the wake of his choices. Many. Several failed marriages. Heartbroken children, parents, and siblings. Job losses. Health issues. All the rest.
None of this should remotely be a surprise to any follower of Jesus.
31Do not look on the wine when it is red, When it sparkles in the cup, When it goes down smoothly; 32At the last it bites like a serpent And stings like a viper.
Proverbs 23:31–32 (NASB95)
Admittedly, this post is a bit different from others I have written. Part of that is because I am mindful of the day. Another part relates to the urgency of action for others who might be slipping ever so subtly toward a similar precipice at the edge of losing everything.
I am a little weird. I stopped drinking back in the 90s. Faith had taken a more proper and significant role in my life. I came to recognize my influence on others. But I also looked at the days of my early adulthood and recognized that the Chris who once drank, did things that were not good, honorable, or healthy. They carried an emotional price that others had to pay with me.
I continue to abstain from alcohol today. Not because I believe the Scripture universally condemns consuming alcohol. Drunkenness is condemned. Abstention is commended as wise. But it is a stretch to say that any consumption of beverage alcohol is sinful. Frankly, too much attention is often given to this subject by those who want to press the case for total abstinence or Christian liberty. I make my case a bit differently.
Two primary motivations influence my position and both feed into a posture of worship.
First, there is a cost. I can look at my own foolishness of youth. I can look at the deaths and destructive patterns in my family that are directly attributed to alcohol consumption. The cost is too high and even if the Scriptures do not condemn the consumption of alcohol, wisdom beckons us to avoid it at any cost.
Second, I abstain because I want to be as missionally effective for the King as possible. Most people associate alcohol with conduct other than that of a disciple of Jesus. Many of the world’s religions reject drinking by those of their faith. The Bible universally commends the pursuit of wisdom and universally treats avoiding alcohol as wise conduct. For example, It is the only position commended for King Lemuel in Proverbs 31. What I know is, that my ordering a Coke Zero, sparkling water, or sweet tea at a party has never cost me an opportunity to share the gospel. A beer in my hand just might. Do I care that others who are disciples of Jesus see this differently? Of course I do, but it is not a test of fellowship for me.
What I am painfully aware of today is the weighty burden that alcohol placed on the shoulders of my nieces and others in my family. Alcohol was voluntarily chosen until suddenly, and against his will, my brother was taken captive by it. I watched him battle the addiction for many years. Today, I take some comfort in knowing that my brother no longer wrestles against this demonic influence that razed the harvest fields of his life.
For those who see alcohol as a social grace, a prop for peace, or help of some other sort…know that I once did also, and so did my brother. I stepped away before it was too late for me. It caught him. And the only sure defense for you is to turn back now. You’ll not regret it. Yes, some will think you’re weird. I will join the counsel of Scripture in thinking you’re wise.
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